I observe, rightly or wrongly, that an Urge to self harm builds up over a period of time, short or long.

It builds up and up and crashes upon us, Urging us to seek relief.

I note that like any 'wave' of emotion, the Urge also has a peak time, and then it declines.

I'm wondering if it's useful to think of the Urge as a wave, and acknowledge that it will diminish, just as it built up.

Surfing that wave, waiting it out, observing it splash over and through us could be a useful visualisation, or meditation for when the Urge is upon us.

Next time you experience the Urge, observe it build, clear time and space for yourself to deal with it, and wait it out, noticing how it reaches the peak, and then experiencing it diminish and fade away.

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